Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Embracing the Wait.


Over the last few months I have talked to many different friends who are all in some stage of waiting.

There's the girl who received and offer, but has yet to get the contract. There's the guy who was told an offer was coming, but has yet to receive it. There's the woman who was asked to do a revision, but has yet to get the notes. There's the man who is waiting to hear back from a prospective agent, and another who has yet to hear back from his own agent. There are several who are waiting for inspiration. There's my friend who's agent is on vacation, thus a wait for her return. And there's my friend, who IS an agent, who is waiting to hear from an editor. Not to mention several more who have confirmed contracts but have yet to chat with their new editor. Or, are waiting for their cover/notes/book/ ARC... you name it.

Each of my friends are dealing with some degree of anxiety over all of this. And sadly, it struck me that this waiting thing never really ends. So why do we let it freak us out so much?

I was talking to SF yesterday about this and I came to the conclusion that maybe we were "blessed" to be a witness to all this waiting because it will inevitably prepare us for our own waits. Patience is a virtue, no? Perhaps we need to stop hating all this waiting and learn to appreciate it. To love it, even.

To see it as a form of mental training - the kind that prepares us for bigger, grander things.

I can see how some of my hardships in other areas were blessings that prepared me for the future, but I have never been able to do this with "waiting." But isn't it the same?

Don't get me wrong. I am not a proponent of non-action. My friends know that I am rather aggressive when it come to being pro-active about my career. But, there is a time to act, and there is a time to "wait."

And so today, I have decided to embrace it.

14 comments:

Hardygirl said...

Amen sister!!

sf

Candyland said...

Hmm. Must.learn.this.new.thing.called.
patience.

In the meantime, I'm going to embrace my stress:)

Christina Lee said...

Kaite, we are on the same wavelength b/c I have a post like this coming up. *SIGH* it's a work-in-progress.

Katie Ganshert said...

It's definitely all waiting!! I've had an agent since November, and I've been doing A LOT of waiting since then. It almost seems like I'm doing more waiting. It truly never ends. God is molding me into a more patient person.

Lisa and Laura said...

You smarty pants! I wish I could learn to embrace the wait...alas, patience is one of the many virtues I do not possess.

Solvang Sherrie said...

Katie, you worded that perfectly! Waiting with you. Patiently. :)

Shannon O'Donnell said...

Yes! What a wonderful way to put it - that first paragraph was so powerful! A change of attitude or perception can make all the difference. :-)

Katie said...

Well, I have to admit that I have not been the best at this. In fact, I find it agonizingly difficult.

But... alas, I DO believe it is a wonderful, and wise skill to embrace.

Now I just have to figure out how to do that.

Indigo said...

From the get go when I decided to take writing serious, an author friend said, "You're going to learn patience - like you've never known."

He wasn't kidding. (Hugs)Indigo

Sharon K. Mayhew said...

It's all part of the process. (The hunt.) You have to enjoy and anticipate each part of it.

Lisa Schroeder said...

You are so right - it NEVER ends. What I've learned is that if we spend time focusing all the time on the waiting, we miss life TODAY. And how sad is that? Whatever is going to happen will happen, and I have come to believe that God knows best the timing of things, and I just need to trust in that. And in the meantime, enjoy the here and now and what today has to offer.

Gail said...

Now Katie, if we didn't have the "wait time," when would have time to obsess over our writing , or actually begin new writing??????
I feel your pain. I think the life lesson of patience is one I haven't mastered in any previous lifetime and I guess i'll just keep coming back as someone until I do! (But I want to move on to my "higher self" NOW. Oh well, guess I'll have to wait.)

Little Ms J said...

I think the waiting is a gift. It means that on the other end of your expectation is the realization of a dream. If I weren't waiting for something I would be inert, not trying, not seeking. I love the journey I'm on and I think only for that reason do I have the all-elusive patience that most find strange.

I'm glad you're zen about the waiting.

It just means something amazing is coming.

Alexis said...

You've made such a great point.
Waiting is a part of life and we've gotta learn to deal!

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